70 Ways Neurodivergent Moms Can Use AI to Make Life Easier (No Parenting Advice Required)

If you’ve ever stood in the kitchen holding a spatula with no memory of why, if your to-do list has a to-do list, if someone saying “just focus” makes you want to set things on fire - hi, welcome bestie. Pull up a chair. We’re the same kind of chaotic.

Here’s the thing about being neurodivergent and mothering: your executive function is like that friend who says they’ll help you move but shows up three hours late with no truck. Some days it’s there. Most days it’s “running errands.” And on the really hard days, it’s ghosted you entirely.

AI can’t fix your ADHD or make your autistic brain suddenly enjoy small talk. But it can be the external hard drive your brain desperately needs when your working memory is at capacity, decision-making has left the building, and you’re held together by spite and cold coffee.

This is the complete list of things I’ve either used ChatGPT for myself or seen other ND moms successfully outsource. Real applications. Real cognitive relief. Zero “just be more organized” energy.

You won’t use all 70. But that's okay - that’s not the point. The point is knowing what’s possible so when your brain is full, you know exactly what you can hand off.

Grab your favorite beverage (or forget it on the counter and find it later - no judgment here). Let’s talk about what AI can actually do for brains like ours.

Quick Navigation (Choose Your Adventure)

• Knowledge & Clarity - When your brain needs a translator and your working memory has left the chat
• Writing & Communication - When words are hard and every sentence feels like a group project
• Productivity & Organization - When your executive function is cosplaying as a part-time employee
• Interaction & Practice - When you need a low-stakes place to rehearse being a functional adult
• Creativity & Play - When your brain wants enrichment but you can’t commit to a hobby
• Life Admin & Practical - When the bureaucracy of adulthood is personally victimizing you
• Health, Fitness & Wellness - When your meat suit needs care but motivation is on airplane mode
• Final Thoughts - When you just want the summary and a little emotional closure

1. Summarizing articles, meetings, books

Paste that 12-page pediatrician packet and ask for the 3 things you actually need to remember. Or that work meeting you zoned out of halfway through.

2. Explaining complex ideas in plain language

“Explain neural load theory like I’m tired and slightly feral.” Works every time.

3. Researching surface-level info fast

When you need to know just enough about Montessori vs. Waldorf to make it through the playground conversation without googling mid-sentence.

4. Learning aid (tutoring step by step)

Breaking down concepts into bite-sized pieces your brain can actually process. Especially good when you’re trying to help your kid with homework and you’ve forgotten how fractions work.

5. Health literacy (explaining medical jargon)

Turn “idiopathic thrombocytopenic purpura” into “your blood is doing a weird thing, here’s what matters.”

6. Feedback loops (critique on work/ideas)

Ask it to poke holes in your plan before you spend three days hyperfixating on something that won’t work.

7. Data handling (charts, insights, plain language)

“Here’s a spreadsheet. Tell me what it means without making me look at numbers for more than 30 seconds.”

Want a deeper dive into tracking patterns? Read about how I use AI to track newborn sleep without expensive apps.

8. Storytelling (shape anecdotes, speeches, posts)

You have the idea. You have the feeling. You don’t have the words. AI can bridge that gap.

9. Mind-mapping (visualize connections)

When you need to see how all your brain tabs connect to each other because linear lists make you want to cry.

10. Learning pathways (suggest curriculum/next steps)

“I want to learn about X but I don’t know where to start and I will absolutely get distracted.” Ask for a roadmap.

11. Brainstorming (names, hooks, angles)

Stuck on what to call your kid’s birthday party theme? Need 15 subject line options? AI doesn’t judge your 2am creative crisis.

12. Outlining (essays, emails, reports)

The structure part of writing - the part that feels like doing taxes. Hand it off.

13. Drafting (messy first versions)

Tell it what you’re trying to say. Let it give you something to work with. You fix it later when your brain is cooperating.

14. Editing (grammar, clarity, tone)

“Make this sound professional but not like I’m trying too hard.” Or “Make this warmer, I sound like a robot.”

15. Translating (languages or tone shifts)

Literally translating languages, yes. But also: turn your frantic brain dump into something another human can understand.

16. Rephrasing (make clunky smoother)

When you know what you mean but the sentence is doing that thing where it’s technically correct but sounds unhinged.

17. Scripting (sample lines for talks)

Practice what you’re going to say in the hard conversation. Get sample phrases that don’t sound rehearsed.

18. Resume help (draft bullet points)

You did the work. You can’t remember how to make it sound impressive. AI can translate “kept humans alive” into resume-speak.

19. Cover letter help (tailored drafts)

Give it the job posting and your experience. Get back something you can edit instead of staring at a blank page for 45 minutes.

20. Marketing help (hooks, captions, campaigns)

When you need to promote your thing but your brain is tired and all your ideas sound either boring or unhinged.

21. Scheduling (tasks into time blocks)

Tell it what you need to do and your energy patterns. Get back a realistic timeline that accounts for the fact that you’re not a productivity robot.

22. Checklists (step-by-step task lists)

“Break down ‘clean the kitchen’ into micro-steps because my brain sees it as one giant impossible task.”

23. Daily reflection (journaling prompts)

When you want to journal but “how was your day” makes your brain blue-screen. Get specific questions that actually help.

24. Habit coaching (track or suggest steps)

Building habits when your brain fights routine? AI can help you find what actually sticks instead of forcing another morning routine that’ll last three days.

25. Scenario planning (best/worst case prep)

Your brain is already catastrophizing. Might as well make it useful. Plan for the scenarios so the anxiety has somewhere to go.

26. Time estimates (project breakdowns)

“How long will this actually take?” - asked by someone whose time blindness is legendary. Get estimates that account for real human limitations.

27. Scenario simulation (“what if” testing)

Play out the possibilities before committing. Especially good for big decisions when your brain wants to imagine every possible outcome anyway.

28. Problem-solving (step-by-step approaches)

When you’re stuck and your brain is spinning. AI can walk you through options without the emotional charge.

29. Accessibility bridges (voice → text, text → speech)

Talk your thoughts out loud, get them organized. Or have something read to you when reading feels impossible.

30. Memory extension (keep details, lists, references)

Your external hard drive. The thing that remembers the pediatrician’s instructions, the book recommendation from three weeks ago, the idea you had at 2am.

31. Coaching (role-play interviews, negotiations)

Practice the hard conversation with AI first. No stakes. No judgment. Just reps until your brain feels less panicky.

32. Conversation practice (languages, scenarios)

When you need to rehearse before the real thing. Works for new languages, difficult phone calls, or just “how do I tell my mother-in-law no.”

33. Role-play (clients, teachers, characters)

Have AI play the other person. Test out your approach. See what lands.

34. Conflict role-play (practice hard talks)

Script the difficult conversation. Try different approaches. Feel less terrified of the actual moment.

35. Mock debates (test your stance)

Argue with AI about your position. Let it poke holes. Make your thinking stronger before the real discussion.

36. Persona testing (AI acts as customer, boss, critic)

Need to know how your idea sounds to someone else? Have AI be that someone else.

37. Companion reflection (ask thoughtful questions)

When you need to think through something but talking to a human feels like too much. AI asks good questions without needing anything back.

38. Conversation starters (icebreakers, scripts)

“Give me three things to say at this work thing that aren’t about the weather or my kids.”

39. Delegation tool (phrase tasks clearly)

Turn your brain dump of “I need help with the thing” into clear instructions someone else can actually follow.

40. Accessibility (reformatting for ADHD/dyslexia/vision)

Make walls of text readable. Break information into chunks your brain can actually process.

41. Creative play (poems, stories, songs)

Make something weird and wonderful. No pressure. No purpose. Just because your brain wanted to.

42. Creative prompts (art/design ideas)

Stuck on your next project? Need inspiration that isn’t just scrolling Pinterest for three hours? Ask for weird specific prompts.

43. Entertainment (trivia, jokes, games)

When you need your brain to do something light. Play 20 questions. Make up silly hypotheticals. Let it be fun.

44. Prompt roulette (random creative challenges)

“Give me a weird creative challenge” and see what happens. Good for when you’re bored and your brain needs novelty.

45. Idea testing (poke holes in plans)

Your brain made a plan at 3am. Is it brilliant or unhinged? Ask AI to stress-test it before you commit.

46. Idea validation (stress-test project/business)

Before you spend six weeks hyperfixating on a project, have AI help you figure out if it’s viable.

47. Content repurposing (turn notes into formats)

Take your messy voice notes and turn them into something usable. Blog post, email, social caption - whatever you need.

48. Persona creation (invent characters, scenarios)

Make up entire people and their backstories. Good for fiction. Also good for testing ideas in hypothetical contexts.

49. Mock storytelling (choose-your-own adventure)

Interactive stories where you make the choices. Surprisingly good for when your brain needs engagement but you’re too tired to read.

50. Micro-coaching (demo how to phrase prompts better)

Ask AI to teach you how to ask better questions. Meta, but useful.

51. Comparing (products, services, options)

“Here are three car seats. Tell me the actual differences that matter.” No more reading 47 reviews and forgetting what the first one said.

52. Financial organizing (budgets, expenses, saving)

Turn your chaotic spending into something you can actually look at without spiraling. Ask for a budget that fits your real life, not some ideal version.

53. Event planning (birthdays, trips, gatherings)

Break down “plan the birthday party” into actual steps with timelines. Because your brain sees it as one massive thing and shuts down.

Fun fact, you can even use AI to help you create new holiday traditions with your loved ones!

54. Travel planning (itineraries, packing lists)

“We’re going to the beach for four days with a toddler. What do I need and in what order should I pack it?”

55. Gift ideas (budget, personality-based)

“My sister likes plants and true crime podcasts, budget is $30.” Get actual suggestions instead of panicking in Target.

56. Shopping lists (auto-generate)

Tell it what meals you’re making. Get back the grocery list. Your working memory can stay available for literally anything else.

57. Recipe building (meals from ingredients)

“I have chicken, random vegetables, and a prayer. What can I make?” Peak exhausted parent energy.

I actually did this and made real meals twice in 24 hours without a meltdown – big win for me.

58. Recipe modifications (dietary/allergy edits)

Swap ingredients for allergies, sensory issues, or because you’re missing that one thing and can’t handle another store trip.

59. Nutrition swaps (healthier alternatives)

“Make this recipe less likely to make me feel like garbage but keep it easy.” No judgment about your current eating situation.

60. Batch cooking guides (prep for the week)

When you have the capacity to cook ahead, AI can help you maximize it. When you don’t, it won’t guilt you about it.

61. Workout planning (tailored to time/gear)

“I have 15 minutes, a yoga mat, and moderate rage. What can I do?” Realistic movement for real circumstances.

62. Postpartum-safe exercise guidance

What’s actually safe for your body right now. Not “bounce back” nonsense. Actual information.

63. Accountability nudges (reminders to move/drink water)

When your interoception is offline and you haven’t noticed you’re thirsty/hungry/need to move in six hours.

64. Habit stacking (tie movement to routines)

“I can’t remember to stretch. How do I attach it to something I already do?” Build on existing patterns instead of creating new ones from scratch.

65. Mood tracking (reflect stress/emotion patterns)

Your brain knows something’s off but can’t identify what. AI can help you find patterns in the chaos.

66. Stress relief prompts (pep talks, affirmations)

When you need someone to tell you you’re doing okay but all the humans in your life need things from you right now.

67. Motivation (gentle pushes when depleted)

Not toxic positivity. Not “you got this!” More like “here’s a very small thing you could do that might help.”

68. Skill practice (coding, writing, math, etc.)

Learn the thing or practice the thing without the pressure of a human watching you struggle.

69. Scenario-based health planning (prepping for changes)

“I’m going back to work in six weeks, here’s my situation, help me plan for how my body/brain will handle it.”

70. Voice sharpening (tone check for warmth/firmness/clarity)

“Does this email sound mad? I’m not mad. Make it sound less mad.” Or “I need to be firm here without sounding mean.”

That’s all 70. You don’t need to memorize this list. You don’t need to use AI for all of these things. You don’t even need to use AI at all.

But if you’re neurodivergent and drowning in the mental load of motherhood, knowing what’s possible means you get to choose what you outsource when your brain is at capacity.

Your executive function doesn’t have to be perfect. You just need to know what scaffolding is available when it’s not showing up.

If you're curious about the neuroscience behind why your brain needs this kind of support, check out The Science Behind Mom Brain.

Bookmark this. Come back when you need it. Use what helps. Ignore the rest.

And if you want to see exactly how I use these in real life - with actual prompts, real examples, and zero “just try harder” energy - that’s what the rest of this site is for.

You’re doing fine. Your brain is doing its best. Sometimes its best needs a external hard drive. That’s what AI is for.

Want the starter pack? Get my 7 most-used ChatGPT prompts for ND moms - the ones I actually use when my brain is full and I need help now. Or start with why I use ChatGPT for parenting if you're still on the fence about the whole AI thing.

Written by Shae — AuDHD alt millennial mom, developer, M.S. in Psychology. Fascinated by using AI to translate developmental research into survival tools for parents. Real experience where she’s lived it, evidence-based prompts where she hasn’t.